Taken from the book The Love Dare (Fireproof)

The scripture say that GOD designed and created marriage as a good thing. It is a beautiful, priceless gift. He uses marriage to help us eliminate loneliness, multiply our effectiveness, establish families, raise children, enjoy life, and bless us with relational intimacy. But beyond this, marriage also shows us our need to grow and deal with our own issues and self-centeredness through the help of a lifelong partner. If we are teachable, we will learn to do the one thing that is most important in marriage---to love. This powerful union provides the path for you to learn how to love another imperfect person unconditionally. It is wonderful. It is difficult. It is life changing.
This book is about love. It's about learning and Daring to live a life filled w/loving relationships. And this journey begins w/the person who is closest to you: your spouse. May GOD bless you as you begin this adventure.
But be sure of this: it will take courage. If you accept this dare, you must take the view that instead of following your heart, you choose to lead it. The world says to follow your heart, but if you are not leading it, then someone or something else is. The bible says that "the heart is more deceitful than all else"(Jer 17:9) and it will always pursue that which feels right at the moment.

The Love Dare journey is not a process of trying to change your spouse to be the person you want them to be. You've no doubt already discovered that efforts to change your husband or wife have ended in failure and frustration. Rather, this is a journey of exploring and demonstrating genuine love, even when your desire is dry and your motives are low. The truth is, love is a decision and not just a feeling. It is selfless, sacrificial, and transformational. And when love is truly demonstrated as it was intended, your relationship is more likely to change for the better.
Remember, you have the responsibility to protect and guide your heart. Don't give up and don't get discouraged. Resolve to lead your heart and to make it through to the end. Learning to truly love is one of the most important things you will ever do.
NOW THESE THREE REMAIN:
FAITH, HOPE, AND LOVE.
BUT THE GREATEST OF THESE IS LOVE
1Corinthians 13:13

DAY 1
LOVE IS PATIENT-Be completely humble and gentle; be patient, bearing with one another in love--Eph 4:2 NIV
The first part of this dare is fairly simple. Although love is communicated in a number of ways, our words often reflect the condition of our heart. For the next day, resolve to demonstrate patience and to say nothing negative to your spouse at all. If the temptation arises, choose not to say anything. It's better to hold your tongue than to say something you'll regret.

If you want to get a copy of The Love Dare it is at SAM'S CLUB for a little over $8.00. There are three very important elements to each day. First- a unique aspect of love will be discussed. Second-you will be given a specific dare to do for your spouse, some easy, some challenging. THIRD-you will be given a journal space to log what you are learning and doing and how your spouse is responding.
My prayers are if there are any struggles your marriage is enduring right now, whether severe or just minor I challenge you to take this 40 day love dare instead of filing for divorce or settling for a so-so marriage that is met with resentment or unmet expectations!