Marriage On the ROCK

It's been a long time since my last post and I've been wanting to write about this since our small group covered it on 2/20.
Our small group is going through the video series Marriage on the Rock by Jimmy Evans. I found this past meeting interesting because it covered the four strongest relationship needs of a man. I realize that relationship needs of men and women vary greatly. But I was shocked when sexual needs wasn't listed as number one for men.
Every man, regardless of personality, has four primary needs. They are honor and respect, sexual fulfillment, companionship and domestic support. I never would have thought honor and respect would be my husbands greatest need. Ephesians 5:22 and 33b both address the wife about her husband's need for honor and respect.

A: Honor and respect
Eph 5:22 Wives, submit to your husbands as to the Lord
Eph 5:33b and the wife must respect her husband
Some of you might be asking how you should show honor and respect to your husband. Here are the notes I wrote during the video.
positive speech, praise (create an atmosphere of honor), how you say things matters- try and say every word with honor and respect. Men are drawn into the presence of praise. Men are extremely sensitive about their ego. How?
1)allow him to fail in areas, honor
2)confront him in love (once) then leave it to GOD
3)honor your husband where you want him to be. Pray it over him, partner with the Holy Spirit on making your husband a great man.
*don't compare your husband to another man, control your thought life!

B) Sexual fulfillment
Except the fact that he is more sexual, men are emotionally detached, men are visually stimulated. Sex is a powerful force in a man's life, and the wife is God's only legitimate resource for satisfying the husbands needs. When we reject our husbands need for sex, we are rejecting him because his sexual drive is an essential part of who he is.. The wife must understand the strength and importance of the male appetite and need for sex.
*no man should compare their wife to any other women.

C) Companionship
Initially, we fall in love while having fun together and enjoying each other's company. A man has continuing need for that same kind of companionship-for his wife to continue relating to him as his best friend. We need to make an effort to be involved in fun activities that our husbands enjoy. Be his "fun" friend. Don't treat him like he's your child. Have fun together EVEN if it's something you don't really enjoy!

D) Domestic support
Having a place of belonging-by making the home a place where your husband loves to be. This does not mean that we (the wife) should handle all the domestic responsibilities but that our instincts for making a "house a home" need to come to the forefront. It's OK to partner with the chores!

No matter what the circumstance is in your marriage, whether your husband is doing it all right and it's easy to deliver on all four of these needs, or maybe your in a one-sided marriage where your husband acts like a dictator and is very controlling, or is emotionally absent from the marriage, or just doesn't plain deserve it. Be obedient to GOD and do what HIS word instructs us to do.

So women how are you doing in your marriage to fulfill the four strongest relationship needs of your man????